Reality has set in for Jason, that he has officially been "dethroned" as the baby in the family, and he's not happy about it. He told me Friday morning that he hoped that Amanda's birthmom wanted her back, because he didn't want her to stay. (I know, I know, it's perfectly normal -- still, it's hard to watch him go through this...)
Amanda generously bought big brother a Playmobil pirate toy that he's been wanting, so that seems to have won her some favor in his heart -- at least for a while.
Here is a picture of Jason from Thursday night -- poor guy keeps suggesting fun things that he can play with Mommy or Daddy, but it's just not feasible to give him our undivided attention on the spot anymore. Tasha was playing piano with him, but he wanted mom's attention. (Forgive the underwear shot -- he's decided lately that he shouldn't have to wear pants inside the house, and it's a battle we just don't consistently fight anymore!)
We do have some sweet shots of him holding Amanda, so the days aren't filled with angst, but it's still hard.
The worst was yesterday afternoon, when I was changing Amanda's diaper. He walked up to Molly, our dog, and gave her a big hug and said "Oh, do you need attention? I promise I won't never, ever forget about you!" It just choked me up -- I feel so bad for him!
This is normal, this is normal, this is normal.......
1 comment:
Ask any older sibling within a family, and they will tell you that what Jason is doing and saying is normal.
His wearing underwear around the house is perhaps his way of 'holding onto' his 'babyhood'?
Perhaps Paul or grandparents could sit with Amanda, while you spend a day with Jason? That was a good idea of Amanda to give Jason a gift. Perhaps you and Jason can come up with a special signal or a special word that only you and he can know about? that will be your own special secret that you and Jason can share. I always had a 'secret' good night kiss for one of the boys, that the other didn't know about.
You can even Jason secret notes from you...doesn't take much time to write a quick note and leave it an agreed hiding spot?
Stay the course...you're doing great!
love,
Kathleen
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